Sunday, January 23, 2011

Beautiful girls with beautiful curls

I don't know if anyone has noticed but...I'm white. And my daughters...aren't. I have straight hair and my daughters...don't. I know that Des and Bri will have stunning hair once I figure out what I am doing. But I have no idea what I am doing. Curly hair care is complex, really complex.

My girls have far less hair than I do but way more products. In the course of a week I have four different products that I might use on my hair. Here is the girls' shelf of products...and they have only been home for a little over five months and had hair for even less time and use almost all of these products multiple times a week:

(And since taking this picture I've bought three more things; the Tangle Teezer, jojoba oil and a Nudred (which I'm waiting to get in the mail)!)

Last weekend, after much research, I drove quite a distance to get the girls' hair cut by a curly hair specialist that gets rave reviews. I wish I had cute before and after pics but I don't. Here is their before pic in the fancy salon:

Unfortunately, I hate what the stylist did to their hair. I just wanted it evened out with a trim but instead she made it so much more uneven and the curls that were finally getting well-defined on the top of their head lost all definition...sigh...

It just confirms to me that, though that my hair is so different from Des and Bri's hair, I should trust my instincts...and less is more. Now that I am finally getting comfortable knowing what works and doesn't for their hair I'm going to weed out some of the above products. It is definitely all a learning process!


  1. That was one of the things we talked about in adoption classes, knowing what to do with hair types that were different from what we're used to. Thought of you and the girls... I'd be SO lost -- I have curly hair, but I could fit what I know about hair in one sentence!

  2. so sorry about the hair cutting thing. it's so frustrating. luckily my husband (who is black) cuts all of our boys hair and if he doesn't my mum, who used to be a hair dresser.
    trying to sort out which products to use on the wee ones hair can be confusing. if you don't mind a bit of advice, you might want to think about an oil, like the coconut oil, that is light and doesn't weigh the hair down too much. also cocoa butter is another yummy and wonderful item to keep on hand so their little skin doesn't get all ashy. and if all else fails as far as trying to find something to use in their hair, baby oil will work just fine. plus they will smell so lovely. cheers~

  3. So sorry about the haircuts. My nanny had been cutting my daughter, Etta's, hair and it took me months to figure out why the cute curls that were developing always went away.

    I really would like to hear how you feel about the Nudred after it arrives and you've tried it. I'm thinking about it for Etta's hair, too. I'm also quite relieved at your product display - I thought I had gone overboard, but you've got me beat! Of course, you do have twice as much hair to maintain as I do . . .

  4. one word: dreds gave up and let my oldest son get dredlocks, best thing I ever did I never worry except when he has something stuck in them-plus the girls LOVE them :)

  5. I enjoyed reading your hair post! :) I've been researching curly hair like this and trying to learn how to do my sister's hair. Right now I mostly use some "Mane and Tail" detangler and coconut oil. It seems to be working very well. I use a detangler comb while she uses a pick to brush out her hair. I'm looking forward to it growing a little longer so we can braid it! :)


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